Marriage is an interesting institution in my opinion. Interesting in the fact that society places such a value on a ceremony that may not be necessary at all. Outside of the legal implication of marriage ? is there really anything marriage provides to a relationship that cannot be had without it? In a modern society is marriage even worth it?
I?ve been happily married for two years now. I wouldn?t change that, but honestly our relationship didn?t change from one day to the next when it comes to marriage. We lived together before marriage, we shared incomes, we supported eachother, and we were monogamous. An expensive ceremony later, a few forms to change her last name, and WALA ? marriage.
The worst part about the institution of marriage is the legal implications. The worst of those ? ending the marriage. Sometimes I wonder if the parting ways of two individuals should be left to the legal system at all. Shouldn?t it be a personal decision and a family matter? Even when kids are involved I imagine that most times (with the exception of violent relationships, which would require legal action since assault is a crime anyways) the entire situation would be better handled out of court than in it anyways.
You pay a thousands to get married then half of us pay a few more to get un-married. Seems like a brilliant Ponzi scheme played on us by society. Like I heard one guy say ?It seems like a relationship based on love and wanting to be with each other is a lot more valuable than one based on staying together because it?s too expensive to separate.?
Legal Issues
Okay ? legally speaking marriage is at times advantageous. It is helpful to, legally, be family. There are tax incentives, financial incentives, and the like. However, these are incentives to marriage that are built in to society. Legal incentives are not a natural advantage to the concept of marriage. Society could just as easily catered to a the recognition of the relationship status of each individual ? without the complexities and legal ramifications of joining and separating from one another.
Marriage in Society
I can only imagine a few people cringing at this post. Some people probably feel that this is a direct attack on ?traditional family values? and the very fabric of society. That?s not what I?m doing here though. I too believe that strong monogamous relationships are valuable.
I think that even the idea of marriage in religion is a far cry from what we have today. In the times of antiquity marriage was very personal. It involved the church, two committed people, and the family. There was no judge involved, often no legal ramifications, yet somehow it worked out.
Take Native American tribes. Couples were monogamous, helped each other live, and for all intensive purposes for all intents and purposes?- married. The legal system had nothing to do with their commitment. Yet, somehow the very idea of marriage has become a legal one. Why?
Marriage vs. Marriage
The concept of marriage in it?s bastard form today serves to strengthen the state ? not the two individuals engaging in such an act. When is the last time you heard of a couple that was happier BECAUSE they were married. I?m betting their love existed long before the exchange of vows and signing of legal documentation. If anything couples today exist IN SPITE OF marriage.
So for the couples out there who resist the traditional marriage yet live happy committed lives together ? I say good for you. Maybe you are doing more for liberty than you even realized.
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Source: http://blogtruth.wordpress.com/2012/07/17/the-fallacy-of-marriage/
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